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Most of us underestimate our own abilities while at the same time overestimating other people’s abilities. This places us at a tragic disadvantage as we attempt to navigate life and work.

The reality is that 1 out of every 100 people you run into are truly more talented than you. Before these people were born, they were served some special potion that made them smarter, faster, sharper, funnier or more creative than the rest of humanity. Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do about these people besides glare at them with jealousy and try not to laugh at any of their jokes.

However, the remaining 99 out of 100 people you run into are of equal talent to you. Their success simply comes down to their self-belief. Nothing more. Nothing less.

It's less about possessing tremendous ability and more about possessing tremendous belief in your ability.

We are constantly making excuses. Worst yet, we don't even realize we're making them.

Why were you late to dinner? Traffic was terrible. Why haven't you lost weight? Slow metabolism. Why have you been quick-to-temper? Work has been stressful. Why have you not left the job you hate? Economy is shit. Why did you forget your best friend's birthday... again? Memory is bad. Why haven't you made time for that book you want to write? Far too busy.

While each of these are legitimate excuses, they're still excuses.

We reach for excuses because excuses allow us to pass the blame. When we announce to the table that traffic is terrible––and that's why we're 20 minutes late to dinner––we no longer have to take responsibility for making people wait 20 minutes.

An interesting practice would be to live a life free of excuses. With time, this might allow us to develop a greater respect for ourselves because we will live with greater honesty and retake responsibility over our own lives.

You’ve got to believe in yourself and your abilities. If not for yourself, for others. So many people don’t believe in themselves and then they are discouraged when others don’t believe in them either. Belief isn’t charity. It’s something we earn for ourselves by believing in ourselves at both the best of times and the worst of times. Belief shouldn’t be confused with arrogance and blind confidence. Part of believing in yourself is being fully aware of your weaknesses, your short-comings and your biases. Believing in yourself simply means that you see a change in the world you would like to make and that you recognize you're capable of making this change; becoming this change. With time, others will learn to believe too.

All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone. Blaise Pascal said that. Unfortunately, the French philosopher didn't give us any inkling as to how one overcomes this inability; this infinite restlessness. To develop the ability to sit quietly in a room alone––at least from my experience––you must practice sitting quietly in a room alone. In your first sitting, you will get restless after just one or two minutes. In your second sitting, you might make it to five minutes before giving into the urge to reach for your phone. However, with each new sitting, you will begin to enjoy your own company for ten minutes at a time, twenty minutes at a time and thirty minutes at a time.

All of us suffer from varying degrees of insecurity, anxiety and uncertainty. Those who don't are either fully-functioning narcissists or have somehow managed to transcend to some alternate plane that the vast majority of us will never reach. Yet, despite this collective experience, we have a tendency to assume that we are the only ones who are insecure, anxious and uncertain. To ease our suffering, we look for validation from friends, loved ones and complete strangers. Something simple that each of us can do to ease the suffering of those around us is to stop asking for validation and instead start giving. It should never feel phoned in and it should never feel inauthentic. However, it's worth remembering that if you're feeling insecure in a room, there is a good chance other people are too. Instead of worrying about what they're thinking of you, recognize they're worried about what you think of them. Walk up to them and extend a hand.